I tried meditating once about 7 or 8 years ago. All I remember about the experience is sitting in a candlelit room with a bunch of strangers and having the instructor softly tell us to “empty our minds” over and over again. Every time she instructed us to do this, my teeth clenched a little tighter. You see my mind was full of random thoughts that were ping-ponging all over my brain and refusing to go away, no matter how hard I fought against them. It was a very frustrating experience so I proclaimed myself “bad at meditation” and didn’t try again. Until now. I’m not sure what sparked it but I have become fascinated with meditation recently and I now know that emptying our minds is not necessary, or even necessarily recommended, for a fulfilling meditation practice.
Why have I finally started flirting with meditation? For so many reasons but I guess a few of the main ones are these:
- The feeling that so many of us live in our heads, cut off from the signals that our bodies are valiantly trying to give us.
- Sleepwalking through so much of my day, not feeling present and not fully experiencing my life.
- Internet addiction. The opposite of being mindful and present. Next time you’re out in public, on transit or just walking down the street, really observe how many people are glued to their phones, missing out on the real world around them.
- I’ve heard it can be anti-aging (anything to keep the botox and fillers at bay!)
And I’ve been practicing on my own in my little living room. I’ve been lighting candles and playing rainforest music in the background to set the stage. Every time I meditate, I find it easier to sink into my body. Memories of old pain come up once in awhile and I sit with it and accept it and listen to what it has to tell me. Sometimes the pain comes up several times before it goes away. I’m patient and loving and stay with it until it transforms into something else (even if this takes days or weeks).
Also, I’ve recently learned how to do a Loving Kindness Meditation and I’ll like to share it with you:
Loving Kindness Meditation
This practice involves silently repeating phrases that offer good things to yourself and to others.
- You can start by thinking about your own goodness—remembering things you have done out of good-heartedness and celebrating the potential for goodness we all share.
- Silently repeat phrases that reflect what we wish most deeply for ourselves (and others). Traditional phrases are:
• May I live in safety.
• May I have peace and joy in my life.
• May I have good health and freedom from pain.
• May I live with ease.
- Say the phrases with enough space and silence between so they fall into a rhythm that feels natural to you.
- Each time you notice your attention has wandered, be kind to yourself. Notice the distraction and either let it go or realize that it is here for you to stay with and, think about. When you’re ready, come back to repeating the phrases without any judgement toward yourself.
- After some time, visualize yourself in the center of a circle composed of those who have been kind to you, or have inspired you because of their love and guidance. They are your circle. As you visualize yourself in the center of it, experience yourself as the recipient of their love and attention. Keep gently repeating the phrases of loving kindness for yourself.
- To close the session, let go of the visualization, and simply keep repeating the phrases for a few more minutes. Each time you do so, you are transforming your old, hurtful relationship to yourself, and are moving forward, to a presence full of love.
And that is it. A simple, loving-kindness meditation. If you try it, please let me know how it goes in the comment section. Namaste xo
A friend and I took a break in our Sunday beach run to do a few yoga stretches today. Here is one of the pics.
When I look at this photo I see a woman being goofy, maybe dancing in the rain, but what I’m actually doing is falling out of a yoga pose. A pose that I couldn’t quite master, no matter how hard or how many times I tried. I remember thinking, after failing again and again, that I had two options, get angry with myself or laugh at the situation. Clearly I chose the latter.
Thinking back to when I started practicing yoga about 15 years ago, I approached my practice with a humourless quest for perfection ~ hyper-extending my legs and frequently checking my neighbors with a sideways glance to see if I was doing better than them. I couldn’t have been more misguided if I tried. It took years for me to realize that yoga wasn’t at all about perfection or even form sometimes. It was about showing up regularly and making a commitment to starting a journey with myself. It was about relaxing into and accepting myself ~ my body, my limitations ~ and even laughing at and learning to love myself. And when I realized this, that is when my yoga practice finally opened up and became a source of joy for me. So here’s to falling out of crooked, imperfect yoga poses and loving it because every stumble is an important part of the journey. Your journey. Namaste.
Meandering through an old growth forest, running along a pristine beach that seems to go on forever, watching the sunset from the top of a mountain.
These are some of the things you can get up to when visiting beautiful Vancouver Island and here are a few snapshots of my recent visit there.
Now I’m back home with stories to tell and recipes to share.
Ground yourself in nature. Surround yourself with it and breathe in its beauty.
Being in nature is a simple way to bring you into the moment.
the only moment that really matters.
Stay here long enough and you’ll always be given an invitation to be happy
Joffre Lake, BC
Last Sunday I felt the need to unplug from the city so my pup and I headed to a sweet stretch of beaches a little west of my home and spent the day soaking up West Coast nature.
We ran through the slippery, slimy (but therapeutic) mud of low tide.
And then came home covered in salt and sand with a bit of an appetite.
The answer to that? A yummy Chunky Monkey smoothie..
1 scoop chocolate protein powder of your choice
1 T cacao (organic raw is most delicious)
1.5 cups almond milk
1 scoop ice cubes for a milkshake consistency
Well, not really heaven, maybe just climbing the stairs out of work out Hell.
I’m Grouse Grinding again next weekend and I’m determined to improve my time. Okay, only by five minutes but, still, it’ll be an improvement. How am I going to do this you’re wondering? By climbing the stairs to Wreck Beach as fast as I can and as much as I can before my climb.
Wreck is Vancouver’s “clothing optional” beach and has one wickedly long and steep staircase leading down to it.
Doing two sets of stairs takes about 20 minutes and will have your heart rate up in no time. The other sweet thing about Wreck is the beach at the bottom of the stairs.
I bet you thought I was going to say something about naked men but, nope, I’m not. If you going early enough in the morning, say 8am, you will find this:
A beach that is so far removed from the city you’ll feel like you’ve left town. Waves are crashing, herons are resting and the beach is deserted. It’s a place to do a little yoga, play fetch with your dog and run barefoot in the sand.
An early morning work out spot that’s good for your body and your soul. That will remind you how lucky you are to be right here, right now.
It’s that time of year again when I grab onto an Instagram yoga challenge and start to get my body ready for the summer shedding of clothing that’s just around the corner.
This month’s challenge is called #yoga4growth.
If you’re interested, search that hashtag on Instagram and you’ll find all you need to join in on the daily poses for the rest of the month.
How I like to do it:
How the really fit people like to do it: